Anyway, things to consider doing: (It's your wedding -- do it how you want.)

• Have someone else at the wedding who knows all of the details. That way if someone (photographer, caterer, etc.) has a question, they can ask them without interrupting what you're doing. You'll be far too busy to deal with every minor crisis. (Lynn, thanks for doing this for Beth and I!)
• Also, keep the priest informed of everything. It makes things run more smoothly, and avoids embarrasments like the priest not knowing for certain if he's invited to the wedding reception.
• Put numbers on the RSVP cards in the invitations, and keep track of which number you sent to which person. That way, when someone forgets to write their name, you'll know who it was.
• Decide in advance what name you'll be using on your honeymoon. You'll probably need photo ID to travel, so it's probably best to reserve everything under your pre-marriage name.
• Do a full rehersal of the wedding. If you don't rehearse something, that'll be the part you don't know how to handle.
• If you're starting a new job after you know when the wedding is going to be, negotiate the honeymoon vacation up front. (I was lucky enough to be able to do this.)
• When throwing the garter, slingshot it. It won't go very far if you just try to throw it.
• Consider taking the wedding pictures before the ceremony. It'll give you more time at the reception, and you'll probably want more time there anyway.
• If you really want to know who will be attending, consider having a friend call "on behalf of the caterer" to ask. Responses will be less biased by people wanting to be polite.
• Decide between the two of you what is important about the wedding, and then negotiate with parents appropriately. If there are things that neither of you care about, those are perfect to let someone else deal with. Conversely, you don't want to accidentally misnegotiate something that's really important to your future spouse.
• Bring at least 3 pairs of nylons. If you're nervous, you're a lot more likely to ruin them.
• Don't tell your bridesmaids that they can reuse the dress. If they can, they'll know that. Otherwise you're just annoying them.

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